If you have never attended a baby shower before, I am assuming you have at least seen one on a tv show and at least have some sort of idea as to what a baby shower is. I am also guessing that in terms of fun ways to spend your weekend, it is very far from the top of your list of things to do. But they have been a cultural norm in many places and something that many couples end up doing. The chances are that unless you manage to escape due to a covid-19 type lockdown, you are probably going to end up having one. There is no right or wrong time to have a baby shower, some people have it early in to the pregnancy and others just before the due date. There are a couple of things to keep in mind when you do have one.
Make a list or “registry” of ideal gifts
While the concept of a registry is very much an American thing, in principle it is a very practical idea. It is very common that everyone that attends the baby shower will bring a gift of some sort for the baby. This is obviously great as it can be incredibly expensive preparing for the baby and so having friends and family chip in greatly reduces the burden. But it can also get very complicated. There are many stories of multiple guests buying the same gift for the baby, which is far from ideal. Nobody needs 4 changing tables for example. A great way around this is to set a list in advance of the items that would be useful, and you allow friends and family to pick and choose from it at their own discretion. Although remember to pick reasonably priced items from reasonably priced stores, you may want that $3000 designer stroller, but don’t put that on the list. Its poor etiquette. A simpler way to get around the complication of gifts is to simply tell people that if they do want you to get a gift, they can simply get you some gift vouchers for the most common baby store in your part of the world. It makes everything a lot simpler.
Provide a party favour
As Baby showers are not typically organised by the soon to be parents, it means that your friends and/or family will have organised the event for you, arranged everything, the catering, the venue, the decorations etc. They are of course doing this because they love you and want to help out and do something nice for the baby and parents to be. They are not going to be expecting anything in return, but this doesn’t mean you should not prepare a small token of appreciation for all who attend. You should try and arrange some sort of party favour for all who attend. This doesn’t have to be expensive or fancy. You could simply get some custom sweets or some potpourri or something else to mark the occasion. There are plenty of websites like Etsy that will allow you to get something for the day without needing to break the bank.
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