There will come a point in the pregnancy where your partner (and perhaps even you) will develop an almost insatiable need to get everything ready for when the baby arrives. This manifests in different forms at different times during the pregnancy, but it usually reaches its peak toward the end of the pregnancy. Your partner is likely going to develop the drive and endurance of an Olympic athlete as the entire house is given a thorough clean, and you are dragged from shop to shop for a whole list of items you didn’t even realise a baby would need. Have no fear though, there are ways to mitigate this last-minute rush, save yourself a whole host of arguments as a consequence and even lessen the financial burden of getting everything the baby requires.

Prepare as far in advance as you can

Without a doubt, the easiest way to make the nesting period as relaxed as possible is to plan out everything you will need for the baby well in advance. You may have a due date, which is week 40 of the pregnancy, but the baby can actually arrive safely anytime from about 37 weeks onwards. So the last thing you want to do is sit there and think, ok I will go shopping two weeks before the baby arrives and then your partners water breaks and you realise you are horrifically underprepared. By making sure you draw up a list of everything in advance, you not only help your partner feel more relaxed that everything is under control, but you can spread payments out across several months reducing the financial burden and make sure that you have everything just in case the baby arrives early.

Be prepared to throw out your favourite old shirt

As nesting progresses, you need to become OK with the fact you are going to have to throw out that old poster you have had since university, that pair of boxer shorts that you insist on keeping despite it having a hole in it and a lot more. Your partner is going to get the place ready to raise your child and let’s be honest how much of your stuff is baby appropriate? When it came to my own partner before the baby, we both had 1 wardrobe and 3 drawers in a chest of drawers each. By the time the baby was here, she still had 1 wardrobe and her chest of drawers, but somehow our baby now had 1 wardrobe, my chest of drawers and her own chest of drawers and I was left with about 2/3 of my original wardrobe and nothing else! Honestly, I didn’t throw out anything I actually needed or wore regularly, but you need to pick your battles carefully. With the hormones in full flow, you need to ask yourself, is that old poster worth the fight. If it was given to you by your grandmother on her death bed, by all means have the argument. But if you bought it for $3 at a sale when you were 19, just let it go it’s not worth the hassle and its not the hill you want to die on.   

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